Why it’s OK to feel lonely in your twenties

I have been wanting to write a post like this one for a while now, and I want my blog to be more real, and really to my life and feelings.

I wasn’t sure sure weather to write this but I thought, I can’t be the only one to feel like this being in my twenties?

I am 23- so for most of my life I have been around people, at school you’re with a numerous amount of people, and then college, again you’re with a numerous amount of people. It all kind of started after college. A lot of my friends fled to Uni, site far away and only came home about 3/4 times a year, sometimes not even that. As you get older, things get more difficult…

I decided not to go to uni, and decided that nope, I wanted to earn the dollar and just get out into the working world-which is great! I love working, I love earning my own money and spending it on what I want, not feeling skint all the time. Well…most the time. 

But it is only after the last couple of years I have started to feel a bit more lonely.

So first things first, as my friends are away and doing their own thing, I don’t see them as often as I would like. You know what it’s like, everyone is busy and it’s hard to find time sometimes, which is completely normal. Suddenly everyone around you has their own life to worry about.

It’s natural right?

This also comes on to the reason why I started blogging, to keep me occupied and (hopefully) make some friends and meet new people. Blogging has definitely done this for me, I have met some really lovely people and have actually made a couple of really good pals. The only thing is, they live quite far away from me…Which is absolutely fine, I just see them every now and then but I know they are always there to chat to if I need them

Feeling lonely sometimes makes you think ‘Why am I not good enough?’ ‘Why don’t they want to be friends with me anymore?’ ‘What’s wrong with me?’ When in actual fact, it’s not you at all, it’s just time.

So there are a few little things that I am going to do to get me out of this lonely bubble.

1 – Stop being so darn hard on myself. It can’t just be me that feels like this? It’s nothing I’ve done, or said to anyone. It just happens.

2- Be grateful for the friends I have. Stop thinking about the friends I don’t have and focus more on the people that are already around.

3- Make more of an effort. Plan more, even if it’s a couple of months ahead in the diary, at least you know your going to see your friends.

and 4- Don’t expect too much. I expect too much from people sometimes, I forget they have their own lives too and not everything works out perfectly all the time.

I would love to know how you feel about this, if you’re also in your twenties or even younger or older – let me know.

You’re not alone and there are load of people out there exactly like you. Sometimes social media can really make you feel like crap. But remember, social media isn’t really real life.

I don’t even know if this made any sense to people or helped at all? I hope it did in some way.

Love always, G x

 

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  1. August 5, 2017 / 2:29 pm

    You definitely aren’t alone in feeling like this Gemma. I’ve had similar issues in terms of friends, ending up pretty much losing touch with some because they’re so busy now they’ve started a family, busy with work etc. My closest friend who I’ve known since school has moved 3 hours away too, which I was really gutted about. It can be hard sometimes, but I guess on the other hand it does make the time we do get to spend with friends even better x

    Jenny | LuxeStyle

    • August 5, 2017 / 10:12 pm

      Thank you Jenny, I am glad I am not alone with this! It can be hard sometimes x

  2. August 5, 2017 / 2:56 pm

    Hi there,

    You aren’t the only one who feels like this doll. I go to university and my class isn’t that social – it isn’t all that great because I have to commute to uni from another town. Plus people have their own lives and such in their 20s so it isn’t always easy…

    • August 5, 2017 / 10:13 pm

      I totally agree, it’s nice to know we are not alone! xx

  3. August 7, 2017 / 2:05 am

    I can completely relate to this post. I am also 23, and it’s crazy to think that all my friends are off living their lives. I don’t luckily have the chance to feel lonely all the time because of the fact that my sister is my best friend, and some of my friends live super close by. But I do have some best friends where I sometimes don’t get to see for months because of all the busy lives we have all been living.

    Melina | http://www.ivefoundwaldo.com

  4. August 8, 2017 / 1:46 pm

    You definitely aren’t alone here… I’m 27 and still feel like this!
    When I went to uni, most of my school friends moved on and then when I left uni and we all became working girls, they moved on too! I do keep in touch with a few of them – but I feel like my circle has gone from 15+ to less than 5!
    My best friend lives over 100 miles away and most of the girls I’ve met through blogging are in London so it’s difficult to meet up when we have busy lives!
    xx

    • August 13, 2017 / 1:58 pm

      I can totally relate to this! It’s okay lovely, you aren’t alone!! xx

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